Can an obese guy with sever acne on face and back like myself ever expect to find a women and have kids?
I’m a 20 year old guy who has never had a girlfriend before. I’ve never even held hands with a girl before! Ouch!
At 6’1, 224 pounds no women has ever come up to me to flirt.:(
All the other guys I know Are just a little older than me and they’re all engaged to beautiful women. Lucky guys!
I always try to think of new ways to lose weight. I hardly eat as it is. I try and exercise all that I can. I’ve been trying to rid myself of acne for many years to no avail.
I just wish I could find someone! Anyone! I’m tired of waiting for girl who is actually attracted to me. I just doubt she is out there.
Yes those guys who are engaged are better guys than me. They have better looking bodies, better voices, better personalities, better everything. They always had girls flirting with them.
Yes I know I weigh a lot. But I think that once a girl sees how nice and dedicated I am about treating a women right she will not mind it so much. Am I right?
I hope to get married and have childeren of my own that I can be proud of!
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Im sure there is a special someone for everyone
sure you’ll find a woman –
just remember – good looking people marry good looking people and have good looking kids
ugly people marry ugly people and have ugly kids
so – decide what catagory you’re in – and look for a woman in the same catagory –
see how easy it is
well heres someone out there
My suggestion to you is to continue to work out and watch what you eat like you’ve been doing. Keep in mind that you are only 20, so you have plenty of time for women. Right now you need to work on you. Go to a dermatologist if your acne is that bad. They will help clear that up. Whatever medication they put you will make your acne worse before it gets better, so while you’re waiting on that, work out and focus on getting to the weight that you want. This will definitely help your self-esteem and give you the confidence that you need to find the woman that you want. Keep your head up!
i used to have severe acne for 7 years until i finally did something about it. i was in the 10th grade when i started accutane. it was one of the best things that could have happened to me. it is guaranteed results. go to a derm and ask them about it! I’m sure if your face is very severe they will give it to you. it take about 6 months to clear your entire face for the REST OF YOUR LIFE!!! but my face was so severe i was on it for nearly 8 months! afterward, my self esteem grew and i started dating more people. don’t worry you will find a girl that loves you for who you are. personality is what counts though! don’t lose hope. it’s never too late. good luck
It’s not just about your looks. It sounds like you have self-esteem issues (probably related to your looks). If I were you I would go to a gym and meet with a personal trainer/nutritionist, they can help you with the acne and body issues. I would also take a look at the rest of my life. What job, hobbies, and ambitions do you have? If the answer is “none”, then that is probably why you don’t have a girl.
i have seen old men on walkers with 22 year old beauty queens hanging on them. saw a guy that looked like uncle festers ugly brother get a beautiful wife. go to thailand my friend
Funny thing, I had a buddy a couple years ago had these same problems and these same worries. I moved away but the other day he came over out of the blue and wanted to tell me about his new girlfriend, and honestly they seem like they really love each other. My point is as long as you be true to yourself, always have fun with people, laugh at yourself and never lose faith that you will find someone, then I bet you will.
When over the counter acne remedies don’t produce postitve results then you should see a dermatologist. He can assess your needs and prescribe meds that can help diminish the acne.
Starving yourself is not the way to lose weight. keep your metabolism going by eating 5-6 small meals a day. Especially fruits and veggies and chicken or fish. Walk daily and drink at least a gallon of water a day. Weight training is ideal for helping to lose weight. You don’t have to bulk up just strengthen your muscles.
Try asking someone out and establish a friendship without telling them that you want to get married right off the bat. This will scare them away. Just like women. You sometimes have to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet your prince.
Confidence is the most important thing you need. If you are a nice guy with confidence who is trying to better himself you will find a girl. You just have to try. There are lots of jerks out there and for some reasons girls want them. But things are changing. Just keep trying. good luck.
Your soulmate is out there. Cheer up
Finding someone is hardly a problem, personally if you really want to find someone try an internet dating site, they provide a place where you and this person can talk. Over an internet the other person can only go about you on your personaility which is good so your sensitive side and how nice of a guy you are. Then when you feel you want to send some good pictures of yourself to the woman and slowly build a relationship with them, internet dating sites are great ebcause they alow someone to really give out to someone there true feelings, because of a proven fact everyone is more confident behind a computer.
A know a good internet Site which you could check out.
It could really help you find someone really special
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First off your weight is not that out of control. At 6’1” your ideal weight is 195 – 210. You need to stop starving yourself, cause that just makes you flabby. Try to eat at least 4 to 5 times a day, just smaller leaner portions.
Secondly, you underestimate women. They are not like us, looks are not the most important thing to them. Unless they are shallow, gold digging rats. The key to getting a girlfriend is having confidence, and you don’t seem to have any. I think if you lost some weight and toned up you would look and feel better about yourself. This would translate to confidence.
Thirdly, woman want a man who can take care of them, be decisive and be strong. This kind of goes with the whole confidence factor, but its really more about having drive. You need to start setting goals and focusing on achieving them. No woman wants a weak man, they will only end up resenting you.
That’s my advice, take it for what it’s worth. It sound like you have some work to do, but trust me if a 6’1” 250 lb guy like me can do it so can you. My wife is gorgeous, and she adores me (tells me everyday). Good luck bro.
I truly belive that if you stop looking so hard then someone speical will find you. There are so many people out there looking for the same thing. Hold your head up and be yourself. It will happen when you least expect it.
Have you tried talking to an overweight woman who has acne? No, because even obese men with acne think they can get with and deserve a skinny supermodel.
I’m not overweight anymore (I lost it all with Atkins diet), but I have friends who are overweight. They are both very sweet, nice girls. They dress really nice, wear makeup and style their hair, yet guys don’t pay any attention to them, not even overweight guys.
Overweight, shallow men deserve to be lonely and without a girlfriend!
First of all, just b/c those other guys you know have “better bodies” or “better voices” doesn’t make them a better person than you! How do you know the girls that they’re with aren’t just attracted to their body or some other superficial thing about them?
Also, you said you’re only 20… girls are petty and superficial at that age. It might be frustrating, but when you hit 25-30, you’ll start to see a really strong shift in how women perceive and treat men; they become less superficial and realize that looks aren’t everything.
You sound like an absolutely wonderful guy who ANY girl would be lucky to be with. I’m not trying to be cliche, but trust me, you will definitely find your soul mate – you just have to be patient and stop looking for her. Things will happen when the time is right
women can sense your feelings/insecurity…. thats what stops the hook up more than acne or being overweight do..self confidence is the big turn on. ive known quite a few men as you describe yourself who are popular w/ the ladies.
you will eventually find some one that is all woried about looks because looks isint everything. and some girls are actually attracted to heavier men. as for the acne goes everyone goes through it so dont feel bad and when i used to have acne on my face and back i went to the dermatologist and the gave me this thing called differin and it work miracles i never got another zit after that but my acne was only mild and then they gave me this moistrizer that would also help with the scars.and when u do have kids i have noticed people with not so good looking parents end up having BEAUTIFUL kids. but dont get yourself down about not finding someone yet your time will come.
The acne treatments available today are much more effective than ones from past years. Get started with a dermatologist!
It’s entirely possible that your diet is poor. I recently saw an article on the Internet about the calorie and fat content of typical items offered at fast food and even moderate price restaurants. Many innocent-looking sandwiches contain more fat, calories, and sodium than a person should have in a whole day or even longer.
Six-feet-one and 224 pounds is not so heavy that you can’t correct it. It would be nice if you did, and you’d certainly appeal to more young women.
But you should also work on making yourself a more interesting person. Read a weekly newsmagazine such as U.S. News & World Report. Get out in the world, join some activities, and meet people. Try to become more outgoing and empathetic. See what happens if you turn off the TV, the video games, and even the Internet for a week. It’ll be an eye-opener!
Remember, how you feel about yourself, will attract others to you. If you are down on you all the time, others will pick up on that vibe and feel the same about you. Self downing is not attractive. Get your acne under treatment…I found proactive really works…if you use as instructed. I came off of doctors’ meds with Edgar Morris products working great for me. Granted I am a petite woman; however, I married a guy 6’2″ tall at 264 lbs. He had no acne; but, his loving personality won me over. YOU WORK ON LOVING YOU AND OTHER’S WILL FOLLOW…I GUARANTEE IT.
actually, you are not that big if you are that tall. My ex boyfriend was 6’1 and weighed 240lbs and he was sexy. But the thing is, is that he had self confidence and he dressed nicely and kept himself well groomed. That makes all the difference. You will find somebody one day but first you have to work on your habits and by that i dont mean your weight. Do you play world of warcraft and act nerdy? do you make stupid jokes or offer to buy people things in order for them to like you?
Stop!!! you are whining too much. a woman does not want to hear a man put him self down.
We need our man to be secure of them self’s and have confidence in self too.
ok you are tall so you are 224 I bet it does not look bad.
I would not worry about your weight problem you have no problem.
i would work on my acne. but most important i would work on my issue thinking that you are not good as your feiends no you can’t compare to your friends it’s clearly that they are at different levels as you so just be you and work on being confident and working with what you got. send a picture i want to see what you aere talking about.
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It’s only a matter of time. Besides, you are only 20.