Birth Control Issue, need help?
My boyfriend and I have been together for three years, we are both 24 years old. The first two years I was on birth control pills. I started to hate them after awhile and stopped taking them. After that the only birth control we used was condoms, until that became a problem.
For one my boyfriend doesn’t like condoms because it takes away some of the feeling and also how he has to stop and put one on. But the biggest issue was a pregnancy scare, which turned out to be negative.
Last week I started taking Yasmin birth control pills. I hate them already! They make me have more anxiety, lower sex drive and horrible acne on my face. I don’t do well with extra hormones in my body. I already tried the paraguard iud which is hormone free, but had to have it removed due to extreme pain.
I told him I want to just use condoms, even using a female condom, but he refuses to change his mind. He doesn’t want to have to worry about getting me pregnant and also likes the freedom of being spontaneous sexually, but how is that gonna happen when I don’t even want to have sex!
I am starting to feel resentful because this isn’t what I want. Help! What should I do or say to him?
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I hated Yasmin also.. maybe you could just get a diaphram?
Try Microgestin, I’ve been on it for 3 years without any type of side effect. It’s the generic version of Loestrin 24Fe.
You can also buy VCF (Vaginal contraception films) at any pharmacy. They are spermicidal films you fold and put into your vagina. I slip one of these in if we don’t want to wear a condom, because I do not trust birth control pills 100%.
Free samples of VCF: http://www.vcf-contraceptive.com/sample.asp
I loved loved loved the depo shot. I am really sensitive to hormones and couldn’t take any of the other kinds,.
Depo is every 3 month injection and you will spot for a few months. But then you don’t get your period at all and that is awesome. No weight gain, no particular loss of sex drive. No crazy hormonal changes. Love it.
Your bf sounds selfish, maybe trade him in for someone who is not.
I use Nuva Ring and don’t have problems with it. My sex drive is normal for somebody with clinical depression (I’m not typically aroused, but I guess if I was anticipating sex happening soon I could become so). It’s easy to use.
You have to resource other birth control that fit your need. He also need to respect your choice and it sounds like you guys ain’t ready for a baby.Why take birth control that make you feel horrible. Communicatione need to be in the same level or you going to resent him instead of loving him. Girl, all i have to say is that it’s your body and you make the right choice that fits your need. It sounds like he want everything his way. What happen is when you let him do it the first time. He made it to a habit. You need to help him break that habit with him. Don’t give up and let him do it again. there is to many diseases going around always be safe.Men would tell you anything to get want they want. Make the right choice be safe and take care.
You might not like this answer, but if your boyfriend is not willing to go halfway with this, maybe he’s not the right person for you. Condoms taking away some of the pleasure doesn’t sound nearly as bad as anxiety, acne, and no sex drive. Why should you have all the negative effects? The fact is, no birth control method is fun, unfortunately.
It isn’t going to be an easy conversation, but choose a time when you’ve both got clothes on and talk to him seriously. Tell him how it makes you feel and ask him what he thinks is fair.
PS have you considered using a diaphragm?